Popular People VS Lonely People

Why do popular people have more friends than lonely people? It seems like a silly question, but they're very distinct behavioral differences that make someone end up popular, resus end up lonely, and it's not really complex or surprising answer.

Once I tell you. Popular people will make more friends because, one, they know how to love other people. This includes things like listening and understanding them, making others happy and being happy doing those things. Number two, social proof, which is basically that the more friends you have, the more popular they've become, the more likely people will want

to be your friend. And of course, the opposite applies for lonely people, where if you don't know how to love others, people are less likely to love you back. And the less friends you have, the less likely people will want to be your friend.

I only learned to be popular in the last decade or so of my life. I know that's an obnoxious statement, but I can say it because I was not popular for most of my life. In fact, I was very cynical about popular people.

I just assumed they were all narcissistic, selfish assholes. And those type of popular people definitely exist. But that type of popularity dies off pretty quickly after the high school college years and once you reach adulthood. Positive vibes win also this is not an introvert extrovert thing.

There are plenty of introverts that are very popular and there are plenty of extroverts that are very lonely, which is surprising. But it's true. And as an occasionally lonely person myself, I found the best way for me to unlonely myself is to unlonely other people.

Tons of people are lonely. It's the new normal these days, and everyone's looking for someone else to unlonely them, which is a problem, because if everyone's waiting for someone else to do it, no one's going to do it.

So the best way is to take initiative yourself and go unlonely someone else. And in the process, unlonely yourself, you're basically killing two birds with one stone, which is great. Which brings up the next big question, which is how do you learn to love others, especially when you might not be feeling loved yourself?

This kind of discussion will require several videos with many different topics to decide. One size fits all question, our answer, rather. So if you think that something valuable to you, I hope you stick around, but I'll give you a pretty good hint.

It requires a strong sense of empathy. So before I give you any actual tactical advice on what to do, I hope you at least take the phrase the best way to unlonely yourself is to unlonely others. Think of that as you may and hopefully act on it.

Good luck. Have fun.